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That was a big guiding question from the beginning.And then Lora Park had research that came out in 2015 that showed psychological distance matters a lot. “Psychological distance” has to do with when you’re thinking about something as an abstract concept.Men are kind of stuck in that norm, where they have to provide. The guys who were not settled or didn’t know where they were going to be, didn’t know if they could provide, were very skittish about making a firm commitment or going in that direction. Why does that sense of men wanting to be a provider still exist when so many couples expect that both partners will be working? There was recent Pew research that looked at what men and women thought the societal pressures were for men and women.
For years my single girlfriends and I have been told by the men we date: You’re everything I’m looking for, but I just don’t feel it.All things that we know produce good relationship partners.But when it came time to close that distance and men had to interact with these women face-to-face, they started to lose interest. I would get on dates where a guy would be so excited about the date, we’d have intellectual sparring and then we’d get there and it started to be a competition.I’ve had guys get into one-upping matches with me on dates. Why do men have trouble committing to women who seem to be the whole package, or as you call them: the End Goal?Women who are “End Goals” are those who really have their lives together; it might be the partnership that these men ultimately want, but they’re just not there yet, so they can’t commit.