Purity in christian dating
In faith, you have become part of Christ's body, and it is Christ through the Church, who must give you permission to join His body to another body. The place where the Church confers that privilege on you is the wedding; weddings are specific acts that grant us permission to have sex with one person. The New Testament makes clear that sex beyond the boundaries of marriage — the boundaries of communally granted sanction of sex — is simply off limits.To have sex outside those bounds is to commit an offense against the body.Indeed, American culture seems determined to mock and ridicule chastity as much as possible.And why is chastity so "dear to heaven," so important to God's vision of discipleship and faithful Christian living?It's not just that by using porn, you're exploiting another person and turning the human in the centerfold into a mere object.If we use pornography, we also wrench sex out of the relational context in which God intended it to take place.
Pornography is destructive because it forms in its clientele expectations that are simply not connected to reality, to real men and women with real bodies (not to mention real souls, hearts, and minds).Have you ever started a new dating relationship with every good intention to pursue sexual purity, yet within a few weeks you cross a line you promised you never would?Are you currently in a dating relationship and your purity is hanging on for dear life, with too many close calls with your boyfriend/girlfriend every date night?In fact, the opposite is true: The dramas of married sex are smaller and more intimate, and in fact it is the stability of marriage that allows sex to be what it is.So practicing premarital chastity is important, in part, because having premarital sex — that is, giving ourselves over to sexual sin — teaches us false, destructive lessons about what sex is. (And, since the advent of Internet porn, we have seen more and more that it is not just a "guy's problem." Today, more women than ever are logging on and searching porn sites.) What is wrong with pornography?