Passive guys dating
( We thought we empowered ourselves by taking on their role, but instead we ended up cutting them slack in the dating department and making them passive.) * Finding what the heck it is they were meant to do in this life – My brother told me once that because a man’s role is to lead, he needs to be clear about his plans.That way, a woman can respond in her given role and say “Yes, I’m willing to follow you in that dream,” or “Adios, good luck with that,” and move on.
That is why she needs to know what it is that a man wants to do with his life. Passivity is obviously at the “flight” end of the “fight or flight” stress-coping spectrum, and when stress goes up generally so too does the passivity. They can be charming, interesting people, but the frustration comes when you feel like you are constantly doing the heavy lifting when it comes to decision-making.Here are some of the underlying dynamics and nuances that can keep passivity going: The problem with childhood coping is that what works good-enough as a kid (i.e., keeps you alive) doesn’t work so well as an adult in a bigger world. John’s wife needs to say on Tuesday that maybe she’s thinking of her mother coming over for dinner on the weekend. In the past, when I have tried to talk to him about it, he ends placing the blame on me, which in turn causes my feelings to be hurt. While still a bit upsetting (remember John mentally mapped out weekend on Monday), it gives him time to think it over and adjust, to figure out what he may want rather than collapsing. Make it an invitation and non-pressured rather than a command. Taibbi, I really don't know where to start..husband has always been passive. Unfortunately, it has turned into checked out of our marriage/family. When I was trying to finish my bachelor's degree, I put him in charge of the finances to take some if the weight off. Again, I can go on and on with many frustrating things due to his Iack of initiative.