My friends are dating each other
When I’m out with another single straight woman, I feel like it’s obvious that we’re on our own.It’s like I’m wearing a neon sign: "Currently looking for someone to give me orgasms three times a week and eat dim sum on my couch while watching Scientology documentaries.So while a relationship with somebody new often involves a lot of overanalyzing and sending nerve-racking texts, you won't have to play the guessing game this time around.Sorting Through Your Feelings Coping with Heartache Moving On Community Q&A Having a friend date your crush can be a difficult social situation to navigate.From now on, I’m attempting to change my view on other single women.
There were dozens of women who claimed to feel alienated because their girlfriends were either in relationships or married. I have pretty much always been the token single girl among my friends.Right before Christmas of last year, I posted a personal essay called "I May Never Find Love — & That Has To Be Okay" about how I’m slowly, but surely, getting over my fear of dying alone. Hundreds of you took to the comments, pouring your hearts out about your own vulnerabilities and fears.I had people blowing up my DMs on Instagram and Twitter, sliding into my Facebook messages, and sending me email after email. And then I ugly-cried in my pajamas while pacing my apartment, gobsmacked by the beauty of it all. And that’s when I saw a theme appear: SO many of us feel alone because we’re the only single people in our friend group.It happened right before my eyes: the guy sitting across the table, who I used to text about the really awkward dates I went on, transformed into the person I wanted to be kissing at the end of the night.It was an electric feeling — like I got zapped — and suddenly I realized everything was about to change in a big way.