Intercultural dating relationships
In some of my conference writing, I have tried to frame the literature on intercultural romance and marriage in terms of systems theory. The main point with this approach is that in a relationship (family, romantic, partners sharing a house or dorm room, small group in a company), A good way to think of this is to think about two individuals in a family: We often think that little Suzy is misbehaving because she is upset or is just a rebel.But Suzy sees her behavior as an act of trying to establish independence or control in a situation with very authoritarian parents. In this particular case, the parents impose control because (to them) Suzy seems out of control.
Perhaps the relationship is intercultural when the cultural differences are strong enough to influence the relationship in some way (Samovar & Porter, 1991).But if your grades have never been great (the current system state is you partying and slacking and her complaining) and she wants to change the system, then stopping your funding becomes positive feedback!This is not the way we use the words in general discussion!However, in some cases, the system gets stuck and keeps applying the same rules for change, even when those dont work.(Ex: You nag your partner to get more romantic attention, but the nagging makes your partner feel become less romantic.